Denial is his most immediate and user-friendly shock absorber against the painful emotional shocks delivered at random from his first family during childhood. Studies show that most codependent men came from highly dysfunctional families that included at least one alcoholic or addicted parent. All he ever knew was this existence, so that feels normal.
He just went out and found a wife who would treat him in the same way that the people who were supposed to love him unconditionally always did. If I treat you the way you treated me, then you would hate me. Sushan R Sharma. Posted in: Abuse , Addiction , Appropriate Behavior. Tagged: dysfunctional people , growth , recovery. Any man would drink if he had to live with her every day.
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And this mess with Tiffany, I mean, she spent him into the poor house! I have actually listened to more than one codependent husband who was justifying to me why he was continuing to pay the monthly credit card bills for his soon-to-be ex-wife while she lived luxuriously with another man in another state! The second kind of codependent man is easy for me to describe because I was myself this type.
I was always the codependent in charge.
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I was a control addict. I had to take more responsibility for running our home, paying our bills, making all of the adult decisions, and raising our children.
Because her alcoholism eventually rendered her helpless, I had to do all of this while simultaneously financing the whole operation by excelling in my career performance. I absolutely loved this role! Besides, I received huge pay-offs from everybody around me as well. The last type of codependent man is the most pitiful of all. He is the missing man.
Ken P; We Codependent Men We Mute Coyotes
The missing man has so surrendered himself to the authority of his alcoholic loved-one and his or her need to escape continuously through mind-altering substances that he no longer exists! The Autistic Spectrum. Lorna Wing. Your review has been submitted successfully. Not registered? Forgotten password Please enter your email address below and we'll send you a link to reset your password.
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